Why setting an intention is the most important step before your ceremony

An intention isn’t a wish that needs to be fulfilled. It’s more of a direction, or a question, that you bring into the ceremony with you.

Why an intention helps

Without any direction, a ceremony can go anywhere, and that isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it makes it harder to work with afterwards. An intention acts as a kind of compass. Not to steer or force the experience, but to make it easier to recognise afterwards what was relevant.

What a good intention looks like

Broad enough to leave room, specific enough to give direction. “I want to understand why I keep repeating the same pattern” works better than “I want to be happy”. A question often works better than a goal: questions invite, goals apply pressure.

What to avoid

An intention that’s too specific (for example, “I want X to happen”) often backfires. You can’t force an experience into a particular shape, and trying to do so gets in the way of an open process. Let the intention be an invitation, not a demand.

How to find one

Ask yourself: what’s most present right now? What do I keep running into? What would I like to understand, feel, or let go of? Write it down, in a few sentences. During the intake, we’re happy to think this through with you.